So, it has come to my attention the need to speak about menopause in our world.  Not only because many women between the ages of 40 – 52, including me, will experience it at some point, but because shedding light upon this natural process of a woman’s life needs some education, information, clarity, and space.  And not just for me, and my beautiful warrior sisters, but especially for the beautiful warrior men in our lives who are trying to understand us on a deeper level, when this all comes to the fore!

The time has arrived in our world, where many men from all age groups are really doing inner work in a way that has never been done before. All you single gals out there, he is on his way! This is because our world has stepped up a level and we are working with new energy systems and our wisdom and understanding are evolving.

The new men, on our new earth, are wanting to get in touch and involved with their inner man, inner woman, inner peace and inner life.  It is an absolutely magnificent and exciting time to be here and witness these changes taking place. Therefore, I wanted to take some time, from my perspective and experience, of course, to share some things that a peri-menopausal and menopausal woman may go through so we can all sit in a place of more peace and openness with this subject, knowing that as we continually evolve this process will too, eventually shift.

As a forty something-year-old woman, I feel that throughout my life I have connected quite well to my body and developed an intelligent self-awareness.  Experiences through illness have given me the opportunity to build and understand the relationship I have with my beautiful body, allowing me to be more discerning and intuitive with what I need to help me feel balanced.  Menopause, however, seemed to throw the shit on the fan and brought me to a new place.  This place has been unfamiliar, rude, emotional, angry and quite disillusioning at the best of times, suicidal, confusing and mentally unstable at worst.  Now not everyone will feel these feelings or think these thoughts but if you have, you are not alone.

Menopause seems to throw our hormones out of balance which can create havoc for some of us. The generations before us would not, do not and will not talk about anything to do with the menstrual cycle, giving birth, let alone the menopausal time of a woman’s life!  All of that far too dirty, or unbecoming. Personally, my mum had a rough time through the experience, but coming from the generation that never explained, accepted or understood the woman’s cycle, was debilitating for her,  which is why I have written this little blog, to assist in breaking the pattern, free this information up with love, and provide another imprint on a higher vibrational frequency allowing an understanding on the planet for us all about this particular subject.

As a hormone-producing human, we are a little bit at the beck and call of our hormones, especially if we do not understand them or take time to connect to our body and health system.  Why would you though, if life has been traveling AOK?

Very briefly, our hormones and our endocrine system play an integral role in balancing our lives on all levels within our bodies, assisting mental, physical and emotional support. Balancing our hormones is part of our process as we evolve which is why there is much attention around them.  Our hormones at menopause seem to be the showstopper, to say the least. Puberty was a walk in the park filled with roses compared to this yellow brick road of a journey.

Moodiness, emotional instability, hot flushes are only a few of the things that may affect our human body and mind through this stage.  Women who go through menopause have been seen to become depressed, anxious, suicidal, emotionally unstable, irrational, angry and just plain fucking crazy.  But if we remember it is just the hormones, it is only a process and it will pass, this may help at times.  Trust the process.  I know,  trust the fucking process, how many times have you heard that one!

Many women may not truly know exactly when it commences, or why she is feeling the way she is, so it can be a little difficult to navigate ourselves let alone let our loved ones know what is happening.  During my experience, grief was also along for the ride, so to know what is what, has been a little difficult to understand, but it slowly makes itself clear over time.

Menopausal shifts may not affect all women, but if you have and are experiencing some of these changes, my belief is that we have chosen, yes chosen to go through it at this time of great change on our planet and as a race. HOW we choose to respond to this experience is what we are here to shift.

We are here to help ourselves.  Love ourselves more, be kind to our bodies, and when we do that, it automatically helps the collective move these belief systems to a higher consciousness allowing it to be freed up in a new way.  When we shift shit within us (technical term), it is a given that it adds to the positive charge of the collective and shifts that too. It is as simple as that. Loving ourselves through any experience will shift the collective around the belief system.  We have chosen to shift up these archaic ideas that menopause creates mad women, crazy women, uncontrollable and chaotic women, even if it feels as that is happening at times!

We need not hide our feelings from our partners and keep it a secret anymore. Like most things, how we feel needs to be shared and spoken about with love and compassion.  If we can share openly and honestly with acceptance and understanding that at this time in a woman’s life, we are processing a new cycle for ourselves and for the earth.

Menopause is a new time for women to be fully with self.  Wise to our body, our mind, spirit, and our earth.

How do we process this through?

We allow it with kindness.  Be kind to ourselves.

Be kind to ourselves when we feel these changes.  Be kind to ourselves if we need to ask for help. Be kind to ourselves if we choose medication. Be kind to ourselves when we don’t know WTF is going on. Be kind knowing we are doing the best we can with the knowledge we have at hand. Be kind knowing that this too is a process and IT SHALL PASS.

What can we do to help ourselves?

• Connect to friends and community
• Communication to the loved ones in our world
• Nurture and pamper self
• Nourish self with healthful foods
• Research info on alternative and western therapies
• Learn about the best ways to assist yourself through particular experiences/track your cycle and what may help at certain times. eg. What will help me with the  anxiety/ depression etc
• Meditation
• Breathwork
• Listen to your body
• Visit your doctor
• Visit your naturopath
• Work with different tools at different times
• Do what you need to get your body through the day
• Be honest with how you feel and speak your truth
• Move your body.
  • Dance and moving sacral and root chakra will help.
• Find what works for you.
• Acceptance that this is part of your journey and it is ok

 

For the men.

Our beautiful men on the journey with us at this time.  How can we explain what is going on with us if we are unable to explain it ourselves?  All I can suggest is to be kind to your beloved.  You may need to draw upon your patience and understanding at this time, so work on those skills, whilst remembering that you must honor yourself and take time to replenish the best way you do for you.  Know that your support at this time will be eternally valued on all levels, and humanity, including all the future menopausal women who will be in deep gratitude you took the time to nurture us.

This belief system is shifting to a time where it will be a process of ease,  if one at all.

What can you guys do?

• Be as patient as you can
• Listen
• Understand this is a confusing time for us too.
• Ask if we need anything
• Trust the process will pass
• Take time out for self
• Make your loved one feel loved – use her love language
• Pamper her
• Just being a support
• Acceptance that this is part of the journey right now

 

My intention with this piece is to give us all an overall understanding of all of the menopausal processes happening to women all over the world at this time.  Like everything, we are becoming more aware of our experiences, giving way to living a more authentic and honest life. We are shifting this menopausal belief system to a higher vibrational frequency just by speaking about it with love and honesty which will allow it to be a process of ease in our future years.

As we begin to know each other more and share our experiences, we are able to connect, support, love and be kind to one another on a much deeper level.  Acceptance of what is and the allowing of that, it is here where life changes.

Knowing that we have each other in loving kindness, it is this that will see us through.

 

In Loving Kindness

Angie xx

 

Side Note – Most of us on the planet today have decided to be here at this time of evolutionary change, which we can witness in the world around us.  We are experiencing many things on a heightened level that may not be understood by self or others at this time.  Anxiety, depression and mental health being at the forefront of our medical systems mind, it is here too that we are changing how it is all perceived.  This is not a mental health issue this is about balancing the body and hormones on all levels.  Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual affect us all.  Our hormones especially our pineal and pituitary glands situated in the brain, are working on many levels to shift our lives to a higher understanding of living in a more harmonious and balanced way with self, others and Mother Earth.